Can women really do it all and have it all? I tried and failed. But it’s with failing that I’ve gained clear focus on what I want to do and who I want to become. I don’t want to do it all and I don’t want to have it all.
Before becoming a mom, I wanted to be a power woman. I wanted to have a successful career, establish a blog business and have a family. You know that quote, “You have as many hours in a day as Beyonce”? If a successful person like Beyonce can do it, we as mortals can too. There was no excuse.
Then I gave birth and became a mom.
I had difficulties during my pregnancy, struggled with motherhood, and took a 6-month hiatus from my blog. My whole world changed and I had an identity crisis. Suddenly, trying to become Beyonce became unattainable. Women’s standards have reached unrealistic heights as we are expected to do it all and have it all. It’s when I stopped trying to fit into that mold that I gained clear focus on who I am and who I want to become.
All these experiences have redefined me as a woman. I’ve found that I am much stronger than what I give myself credit for and that I alone get to define my own Beyonce.
Turning down the noise and removing expectations gave me clear focus on what is essential in my life. As a mom, I want to focus on showing my daughter by example that going after your dreams requires hard work. As a wife, my focus is on nurturing my family and being an equal support to my husband. As a woman, I am focusing on encouraging other women to live a life that is a true expression of themselves through Clumsy Chic. This is now my definition of a power woman.
I’d love to know - what kind of Beyonce do you want to be?
P.S.: Clumsy Chic is one of the top 3 nominees for Grazia Style Awards! This is a huge honor and I’d love to get your support to win the Best Fashion/Beauty Blogger. Vote for me here.
Another hugely inspirational and beautifully written post…not to mention how much you are SLAYING in all of the photos! Everyone go and vote for Clumsy Chic!!
Love this as I do all your posts!
I just came across this. Very well said. I think society at large tends to define ‘powerful women’ as one having successful corporate careers, great parenting styles and basically ‘having it all’. But once we move away from that and define what powerful means to us -is when we are most content and really discover ourselves.
I’ve just started a blog a couple months ago, if you fancy a read sometime.