One of my closest friends, Kummam and I have our nightly Whats App chat sessions where our conversations go from talking about the million things we’re doing to being exhausted, frustrated and feeling like a failure.
Kummam is writing a book, runs a movie blog, a book club, and she’s also studying for her Masters Degree, all this while having a full-time job. I, on the other hand, am marketing manager by day, blogger by night, wife, photographer, have a number of side projects in my pocket and currently moving house.
Why do we do this? We’re both firm believers of going after your dreams and have an ‘all or nothing’ approach to life. She sent me this quote the other day that says ‘The most successful people in this world recognize that taking chances to get what they want is much more productive than sitting around being scared to take a shot’. Very true. But I wonder if we’re walking a fine line of being a dreamer or simply delusional.
Is there really such thing as having it all? Can I really be successful at my job, have a career as a blogger, and be a supportive partner to my husband?
I’ve had this blog for almost three years now and during that time, and the most valuable lesson I learned is, yes you can have it all, but you cannot do it all. Acknowledging the fact that you are not alone in your journey and that you have people you can rely on was the most difficult thing but the most important lesson I’ve learned, because my stubborn self thought that asking for help was a sign of weakness.
Over time, I’ve built my support system of people who genuinely cares for me and believe in my dreams. They are a phone call away if I need a sound advice or help on something. For the most part, It’s just nice to know that you are not alone in your journey.
I’d love to know what you think- what’s your idea of having it all?
What a great blog post! - You know what they say ‘if you want something done ask a busy man/women’ - keeping busy with what you love, will hopefully not feel as a burden,then… - I’m CERTAIN you can have it all: a great career, a loving husband, a healthy life , happy children and some ‘Me-time’… Whatever ALL that YOU feel is important to YOU - for me it’s all about great planning and a great support system. - Know what you love; Do what you love and the most important: choose the people in your life wisely. - however, probably easier said than done… <3
Hi Mia, what a lovely comment. I agree with you completely. It’s easy to forget to appreciate these things because we get to wrapped up with daily life.
Some days I feel like I can have it all and other days I feel like I have too much on my plate and I fall into a heaping mess of tears at night. I definitely suffer from Mothers guilt. If I have to attend a meeting for BloggingME and I can’t pick Sadie up from school I feel like I can’t have it all. Having said that though I love that my daughter is growing up watching her Mama try to be the best mama, wife, friend and business woman and trying to live out her dream rather than sitting on the couch watching TV all day.
My daily struggle :'(
But we learn as we go <3